Cincy Bites

I’ve got it under good authority that there are little kids out there who bite. And pinch. This really isn’t surprising given this generation’s fascination with vamps and wolves (team Edward, anyone?). If you want to stop the madness though, you have to start early. First consider:

• Can you identify the trigger(s) to the behavior? If yes and you can do it, avoid them like the plague. Problem solved.

• If you can’t identify triggers, or if you can but can’t avoid them entirely, then try the strategies below.

Generally, we can follow the 3 behavioral R’s: REPLACE, REMOVE, and REWARD.

• REPLACE: if you notice your child pinching in certain situations, given him something else to do with his hands. Play dough, silly putty, and stress balls are all good options.

• REMOVE: when biting or pinching takes place, remove the fun factor. Likely, that’s going to be you. Example: You’re holding your daughter and she leans in to give you a “kiss” that turns into a bite. Put her down IMMEDIATELY and walk away. Keep an eye on her of course, but do not give her attention for a minute or two. The immediate part is important because it teaches the association between the two behaviors: Biting = No mommy attention. A real bummer for toddlers.

• REWARD: teach “gentle hands and face” by showing what they mean and asking your child to play it back. Reward any time you see this behavior being done without your having to say so. You can use praise, hugs, or your own gentle hands and face.

If you need additional support with these or other behavior difficulties, please contact me at hpfamilytherapy@gmail.com